Will you be my Bridesmaid?


Let’s face it, weddings are expensive – not just for the bride and groom and their families – but for the wedding party as well. This is something that, in my opinion, is often overlooked. I think it’s often forgotten how much money members of the bridal party are shelling out to be a part of your big day. So with that being said,  I have charged myself with making sure my bridesmaids feel appreciated and know that I recognize that it is an honor to have them in my wedding party.

I wanted to ask 5 very special women in my life, all childhood friends or family, if they would be willing to devote their time, love, DIY skills, ears, tears, advice, laughs, wallets, and everything else in between to Daniel and I until May 26, 2012. I wanted to ask them to be my bridesmaids rather than tell them because to me, it’s an honor. I put on my DIY hat and started to brainstorm ways to ask these women to be a part of my special day. I ran across tons of cute ideas, but finally decided on a message in a bottle (thanks to a wedding invitation I saw) because it fit perfectly with our destination wedding and I could easily personalize it.

So off to JoAnn’s I went on one ambitious Friday – thinking I’d purchase the materials and finish that evening – yeah….right! I spent over an hour in JoAnn’s scouring for glass bottles with corks…they don’t make these things you mean to tell me?! I ended up purchasing glass bottles that resembled the fancy vinegar/oil bottles. Then I hunted around until I came across individual corks that were tall enough to fit on top of the metal piece. Now, I can assure you that I thought this project would be an easier labor of love, but once I’d committed to it, I was determined to make it work.

Armed with a glass of wine and the entire evening ahead of me, this is what I was faced with.











First task was to carve  a hole in the cork so I could fit it on top of the metal bottle top. Next up, figuring out how to correctly tie the string to the top so it doesn’t come off when the top is removed. Then I experimented with tying a note on the end of the string and finally, I made a funnel to put sand into the bottle.


















I then put shells into each bottle and at midnight, this is where I stood…











I knew I needed some serious backup, so I took them home to Mom and Dana and we spent a Sunday afternoon and evening tying ribbons, making bows, and using glue guns. Next up, I purchased a notepad with patterned paper and chose a different pattern for each girl. I drafted out each letter, then cut out the patterned paper to fit the draft letter size and then wrote out the final letter on the patterned paper.




















Finally, I rolled up each letter and sealed it with alphabet stickers of the potential bridesmaid’s initials. Here’s the finished products after about a month of off-and-on work.











Next up were the mailing labels, I added our wedding seal to the mailing labels for another personal touch.










Finally!!! At about 12:30am on a Friday night – I was finished!! I lined up the packages and took one last picture. I was totally beat and Dior was completely over it











The reactions from my bridesmaids was overwhelming, they not only loved the message in a bottle concept but the personalized letters reflecting on the memories we’ve had together and what each woman means to me. I ended by asking, “Will you be my Bridesmaid?” I’m happy that each woman accepted the the role as my bridesmaid, I was a little nervous about it honestly. Perhaps because people usually don’t ask you, they tell you? There’s nothing wrong with either approach, I just wanted to make it very personal and in the end, I’m so glad I did. I can’t wait to experience the bridal journey with my bridesmaids, I know it’s going to be a phenomenal ride. 😀

Category: Bridesmaids


Erika Gibson on September 22nd, 2011 at 10:07 am

This was THEEE most creative way to be asked to be in a wedding before (my wedding included, LOL)! I shouldn’t expect anything less from someone with your classy touch. Great job – the care you put into this was so touching 🙂 I appreciated it!

Sara Valdez on September 29th, 2011 at 8:43 pm

I agree Erika! I absolutely loved the message in a bottle and am so honored and excited to be a part of the most important day of your lives…well..that is until you have children:-) I love you both, and cant wait to see you in Paradise!!!



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